bipolar sudden breakups

I feel like an idiot without a voice and it's incredibly painful. He Seems Like He’s Being A Huge Jerk To You . They can't fix her, not with all the money, connections, fame, good looks, WHATEVER. To answer your question: In the weeks leading up to his decision to stop talking to me I know that he had stopped taking his medication on a regular basis/on a regimented schedule (just based on what he shared with me). I keep thinking “how she could do this to me”. Bipolar disorder, formerly called manic depression, is a mental health condition that causes extreme mood swings that include emotional highs (mania or hypomania) and lows (depression).When you become depressed, you may feel sad or hopeless and lose interest or pleasure in most activities. And thanks for the practical advice. Although I know it’s her bipolar making her do these things and it’s not personal. She’s behaving exactly as she was when we first dated. We didn't get back together as he seemed to have no interest in me and I was dealing with a recent death in the family as well as a recent medical issue, and we both went to our respective colleges for the fall semester. You do not need to suffer from it by association. Posts : 8. This is a conscious choice on the part of the guy and is designed to act as an emotional shield. The only thing you can offer is understanding. Of course, she treated you that way. It was the most painful experience of my life as I had fallen in love with her and it had been a serious relationship. Join mental health advocates, Shaley Hoogendoorn and Julie Kraft, as they passionately share their bipolar journeys. Bipolar Disorder. Even if the relationship was toxic and getting out was the right decision, there may be a sense of failure or self-blame. I appreciate it. However, his decision to cut off all communication completely (for what he says will be a year) and refusal to acknowledge me or let me say anything in response makes this difficult to let him know. Here, the man will become less available to talk, discuss problems with, and provide comfort. Incremental withdrawal of support: Yet another way guys deal with breakups is by slowly cutting off emotional support. You need to be able to rely on and trust the man you love because we’re wired to be in relationship with one another. Having mixed episodes. It's hard being like this, dealing with emotions. How she was committed, really liked me, that she hadn’t been with too many guys, didn’t have problems with physical intimacy and didn’t mind that I wasn’t a traveller. He was anxious, things were off, and I knew something was up. Thanks for taking the time to post. I got frustrated and asked him why he was suddenly doing all of this (in retrospect I shouldn't have added this stress and I truly regret it). Don't and I mean DON't contact her. If I could feel less, maybe I would. Very insightful. They lack the empathy to know or care how their actions impact the emotions of others. I am lucky that at least I broke it off. At age 29, I was diagnosed as bi-polar. I think you have to be prepared for the possibility that he really doesn't want to get back together. I know how hard it was to be around a parent with bipolar. Yesterday I came home from work and find her and her new guy smoking tons of weed and drinking. We had been dating for two years before he was diagnosed and I should note that I know we both loved each other and really were looking at things long term. I think he will probably change his mind about wanting to date you, so in that sense, you can hold onto the rope. I had undiagnosed depression or bipolar disorder at the time. So I don't want to lay the "maybe it's just young love thing" on you and tell you that maybe it's not to be. but honey , I'm bipolar .. You need to understand !" If you cheat on me or flush your meds I'm done. She slacks at work, eventually calling sick. I don't know how to react because I don't want to trigger anything worse for him in terms of his own mental health, but at the same time, I just don't know how to handle this I care for him unconditionally in terms of his struggles with bipolar and wish there was something I could do to make him understand I'm doing my best to learn how to act to best support him. They give me drugs that supposedly help me to feel less. He even brought up being excited about our future together past college. I am sure he loves you but does not know how to handle his feelings. I've been in shock at how easy it is for my boyfriend to abandon me on a sort of whim only a few weeks after confessing how much he wants to work things out to last long term. Having bipolar disorder means living with challenges most other people don’t face, like needing to regularly manage bipolar triggers to make sure you don’t have dramatic mood changes. She also revealed her promiscuous past and said we would break up if I didn’t go travelling with her for a year. They suffer depression and will push people away during that time. but honey , I'm bipolar .. You need to understand !". That's a perfect excuse. " i wasn't super sure about putting this up but in the interest of showing you all what a manic episode is like, i figured i'd just upload. A person may be depressed for a long period of time and show low energy, anxiety, and emptiness. She forgets all about her love at first sight and cancels her date. Pity or curiosity do not lead to a positive relationship. Decide if you are in it for the longhaul, decide if you can do it. They need professional help. Knowing how they are different can help you plan the right approach. Bipolar people might break up with their partners during mania or hypomania because of the symptoms(Bipolar disorder - Symptoms and causes) in such case they will come back to patch up for sure. I didn't even know human beings could be like that. When they come out of depression then they are semi normal but really the depression … However you spent 2 years learning how this will not last and how damaging it can be to the "well-meaning" partner. At least we won't make the same mistake twice. Bipolar Disorder. I want him to know that I am willing to try to learn about what's going on and remain a positive support for him through everything. I appreciate your honesty and advice and definitely understand what you are saying. Then depression brings the pantomime to a standstill. It may help to limit your access to specific accounts and credit cards during manic or hypomanic episodes, as many people overspend during these periods. Although she still robbed me off everything. We've now been together for a total of 22 years. Most people think the main reason for that gnawing pain is because you lost “the love of your life." I'm not always easy to love, but in a relationship, I'm a caring, supportive partner. It will get better with time and once I'm out the house. I love and hate with an intensity beyond my comprehension. DON't answer her calls,texts, emails, letters, or knocks at the door. But (in particular borderlines) they keep people on lists, a good list and a bad list. Or maybe I'm way off base and this has nothing to do with his disorder and "forever is forever", this time? However you spent 2 years learning how this will not last and how damaging it can be to the "well-meaning" partner. If he comes off as being a massive jerk to you after breaking up – chances are it was really rough on him. The are extremely self focused regardless of anything; near term personal gratification is a hallmark. :(. My social support is limited. and your exbf, i'm about to be 30 in a couple weeks. Bipolar needs lots of work and you really have to be trained in psychiatry to be able to handle any kind of relationship with them. When your mood shifts to mania or hypomania (less extreme than mania), you may feel euphoric, full of energy or unusually irritable. And then my dog of 12 years died and he responded that the stress made him have a feeling of hurting himself again. And I also don't want to lose the person I love most in the world. Be real, have fun with him, tell him to balls up. I don't know how to articulate it specifically, but there was a "shift". You're right. She introduced me to her parents, grandparents and sister. Hey, buddy. We still spent a lot of time together and I could calm him down pretty well like usual, laughed, had great conversations, etc. Could some of this behavior be from stopping them? Nonetheless, I feel hurt, betrayed, used, alone and sad. What is happening to your ex right now has nothing to do with you. A week later she is online dating and brings a guy round to the house. were treated like crap. Stay strong and feel free to PM me if you need an occasional "You can do it!". He is mentally unstable and has paranoia. I'm a little bit older than you(?) I've started attending a National Alliance for Mental Illness support group for loved ones of people who suffer from bipolar disorder to help me become more educated, but don't know where to go from here. Sometimes people don't have the best intentions either, because they are impulsively reacting to the loss. Your feelings, pride, heart, finances, self-esteem, etc. Just try to be supportive, but if he is not willing to help himself and seek treatment, you might want to reevaluate things. Feel hurt, used, betrayed and alone by the whole experience. Sooo, here it goes: My 20-year-old (ex? This can make people behave quite strangely, like breaking into their exes property, destroying their belongings, or coming up to them uninvited in the street. Sorry, that may not be totally relevant to your situation but maybe this will provide a little insight from his point of view. It cannot be; because they have brains that are chemically skewed. With the quickest temper in the Zodiac, Aries is probably the easiest sign to break up with. He mentioned concerns about his meds and such but didn't seem overly upset towards me. Once you're more calm and removed yourself from the toxicity, then you can contemplate what you've learned from the experience. I broke off with my partner after no more than 2 years together so I could go to grad school. You should never feel as if you are dating two completely different people—especially one that is abusive. I'm fairly certain this is because of the disorder. Unloving, cold, distant and very selfish. When his energy is high, he may experience racing thoughts and … It cannot be; because they have brains that are chemically skewed. Just be yourself, being to good to him is giving him stress. We argued about it and she tried to make me homeless. Please don't weep over how you are not being supportive enough of someone who is treating you badly. Be there for him. Being in a relationship where one or both partners have bipolar disorder is not easy. If people can't quit talking about her, move on from them too. It's hard being bipolar, it's hard being the person that's with someone bipolar. When you’re in a loving relationship with someone who has bipolar disorder, it’s common to feel frustrated and unappreciated at times. He started getting really anxious/tense about everything again, making comments about how I was pressuring him by pursuing a relationship with him, and this confused me because he was the one that brought it up this summer. How you treat them is never ever a fair deal. This almost pushed me over the edge mentally to be honest; I felt like I was 'losing it' only because I wasn't prepared to lose him like this again. Sounds like a rough deal, for sure. People with bipolar disorder often times do not see things clearly and others begin to distrust what they say and how they percieve things. After a month he ended up in the hospital and was diagnosed with bipolar disorder. He wired us to lean on each other, to trust … It is usually manageable with a correct diagnosis and suitable treatment and support. Many people find careful money management to be vital in reducing stress and avoiding episode triggers. Well, that's not unusual! 5 months later and she turned into a completely different person. First, I hope it's okay I post here- I apologize for a) GIANT BLOCK OF TEXT b)a lengthy back story, but hopefully it will help explain my situation and c) that this is a "call for help" post. Diagnosed bipolar 4 years ago. Before it was burglars - but there were no burglars, it was not about any actual burglars. You also might keep in mind that this guy could have a personality disorder. People with personality disorders (narcissistic, borderline, etc) have some very unique qualities that don't come and go with episodic events like with BPD. I have to admit, I was scared for him and how much he was struggling but did everything I could to help. This blog helped me forgive the nastiness I experienced in a bipolar relationship I think any advice given by strangers on the internet should be taken with a grain a salt, but if you're looking for direction, here's my input.Look for the people that really love you, feed off that energy, but don't be stingy in giving it back. Cookies help us deliver our Services. Now my ex won't speak to me. I almost always usually regret it, as well as the fights I pick with my boyfriend. I really think that you have to take care of yourself and put yourself first. TLDR – Caught up in the rollercoaster of a bipolar girl. However he is not going to suddenly get better, so this pattern will continue. My ex, she said she could do it. Lexi can't get out of bed or bare to even open the curtains, cynical death rites surge in her brain. I have been dating my boyfriend for about 8 months. Getting dumped is really painful. If you’re dating an Aries, be prepared for a lot of cut and thrust and the occasional bout of head butting. Day and night merge into one. She told me that I was the love of her life when I broke up with her. Forgive me for my misconceptions, I really want to better learn how to be a more understanding, graceful, loving advocate when it comes to this (not just for my boyfriend). Thank God, that you have no need to deal with her ever again. Be patient with finding a relationship. Sometimes we really love someone but we can't be with them until circumstances change. Quite simply, I'm devastated. I naturally poised myself as the next Prime Minister of Canada and my document was brilliant in my mind. However, just within his first week back at college this semester, something changed. It’s not easy feeling so intensely. I almost wish I hadn't told him my dog died or wouldn't have been stupid enough to question why he was acting a certain way because it pushed him over the edge. Another reason sudden breakups are so shocking – especially if your boyfriend cheated and lied to you – is the trust that was broken. After just a couple months I knew I wasn't doing well in school and so I went back to Chicago where he was. You're healing not wounded. Thank you for saying this. Does anyone else have experiences (on either end) with these sorts of sudden, charged breakups that just don't seem to match up? 12. This can have an effect on bp people so much so that sometimes they don't trust their own perceptions. Bipolar people, don't need a lot of things, but occasional candle light dinner is necessary. Support Forums > Bipolar Disorder New Topic Reply Previous Thread | Next Thread Dakato. No one with a heart can deny that. It was back and forth, on & off for a while. But if the break up … I understand the risk I'm taking in saying that I want to wait around (even while there is space), but feel it's important because I know to my core that I want to support him through whatever he might endure and better learn to cope so that I'm an ally, not a potential trigger. I dont know if I can risk having this effect on his mental state. I am new here and seeking guidance. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. You need to take several steps back and examine why you felt the need to stay with someone who was so ill. It's so hard to not take their behaviour personally. Unfiltered & authentic - a real-life glimpse of bipolar disorder. Classic avoidant. When a Bipolar Heart Breaks . We fought about what was going on and what he wanted from me/us and he kept just talking about his mental state. He is bipolar but takes meds and is in therapy. Within a week he decided he would not be speaking to me for a year (he communicated this to me only via text and email, after 3 years of intense emotional investment in each other's lives...). Clearly your boyfriend loves you and I hope that reminder offers you some encouragement. While in a relationship, they will say they are more connected to the other person than ever. I’m trying to pretend it doesn’t bother me, but it makes me cry. There are a couple of already popular bipolar subs but having a specific sub just for relationships is important in order to facilitate a community of support. When he suddenly broke up with me (not in the nicest way) during what seemed a serious bout of depression of his, things quickly started to worsen for him psychologically at an escalated rate. I try to not feel this way. However, half way through the semester I found out that he had to take a medical leave and returned home for the rest of the year. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts, This blog helped me forgive the nastiness I experienced in a bipolar relationship. You, however don't have it. How far does your understanding go? I am bipolar and thinking of separating from my wife of 17 years relationship. I’m a sensitive person. Bipolar is hitting the junction at an altogether different velocity. Be patient good things happen to good people when they are involved with someone who can contribute positively to a relationship. I agree about waiting for more stability but I fear that maybe he IS actually stable right now and in reality I was the one causing problems. The more of a jerk it seems like he’s being, the worse he’s feeling about the breakup. Now it is you, but it is still not about anything you did or didn't do. Let yourself feel the emotions How you treat them is never ever a fair deal. hugs. It is about his own mind. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. I’ve been appearing strong so far, but feel like breaking down. She is bipolar, that is what is the norm for them. There is a very large online support forum for people with SOs who have personality disorders. I want to take care of myself and am recognizing my need to be independent in spite of this, but I'm hoping this does not mean that I will forever have to be apart from him. Or bare to even open the curtains, cynical death rites surge in her brain the new that! 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